JL sent Chris and I this book last week. I grabbed it and read it over the weekend. Good read and makes a lot of sense to me. In the past 2+ years or so, I have gone on a lot of dates. All the would be relationships ended quick as 1 party was not interested in furthering it. I was happy about that so not to waste time and drag out something that I knew was not going to work. I reckon this attitude has kept a lot of these girls my friends and has led to more introductions…anyway, Leo the Love goddess, sent this book for Chris and I to read and I recommend it to anyone, married, engaged, or not at all.
The author, Sam R. Hamburg mixes us 30 years of martial therapy anecdotes and tonnes of practical observations on what types of couples are happy, and what types are not.
He discusses 3 things that couples should be as close as possible on, if they actually want to be happy in a life-long partnership.
1) Sexual Dimension – He says you gotta be attracted physically to your partner. This is where love starts
2) Practical Dimension – common interests. Do you have some/a lot of interests that you can share together?
3) Wavelength Dimension – See the world on a similiar wavelength. This one made a lot of sense to me. If you don’t see the world on a similiar wavelength, it is tough to feel that love long term.
Of course, I am explaining them in a super short manner – but he goes into each one in-depth and writes about how much is enough etc. I reckon he is a bit humble as well, cuz he says, these are just patterns that he sees over years…sometimes, there are rule breakers. It is just cool to hear about this guys perspective given that he has not only been married for 25+ years, he has been studying successful and unsuccessful marriages for 30+ years.
Check out this book ie Buy Will our Love Last at Amazon or ask Chris/I to borrow when he is done with it.