Religion is based, I think, primarily and mainly upon fear. It is partly the terror of the unknown and partly, as I have said, the wish to feel that you have a kind of elder brother who will stand by you in all your troubles and disputes. Fear is the basis of the whole thing — fear of the mysterious, fear of defeat, fear of death. Fear is the parent of cruelty, and therefore it is no wonder if cruelty and religion have gone hand in hand.
JL sent Chris and I this book last week. I grabbed it and read it over the weekend. Good read and makes a lot of sense to me. In the past 2+ years or so, I have gone on a lot of dates. All the would be relationships ended quick as 1 party was not interested in furthering it. I was happy about that so not to waste time and drag out something that I knew was not going to work. I reckon this attitude has kept a lot of these girls my friends and has led to more introductions…anyway, Leo the Love goddess, sent this book for Chris and I to read and I recommend it to anyone, married, engaged, or not at all.
The author, Sam R. Hamburg mixes us 30 years of martial therapy anecdotes and tonnes of practical observations on what types of couples are happy, and what types are not.
He discusses 3 things that couples should be as close as possible on, if they actually want to be happy in a life-long partnership.
1) Sexual Dimension – He says you gotta be attracted physically to your partner. This is where love starts
2) Practical Dimension – common interests. Do you have some/a lot of interests that you can share together?
3) Wavelength Dimension – See the world on a similiar wavelength. This one made a lot of sense to me. If you don’t see the world on a similiar wavelength, it is tough to feel that love long term.
Of course, I am explaining them in a super short manner – but he goes into each one in-depth and writes about how much is enough etc. I reckon he is a bit humble as well, cuz he says, these are just patterns that he sees over years…sometimes, there are rule breakers. It is just cool to hear about this guys perspective given that he has not only been married for 25+ years, he has been studying successful and unsuccessful marriages for 30+ years.
Check out this book ie Buy Will our Love Last at Amazon or ask Chris/I to borrow when he is done with it.
When I read an article like this about the pollution from fertilizer, it helps reinforce the idea that Organic farming techniques are important. I wonder what the farmer that uses fertilizer thinks…he may just be trying to put rice and beans on the table for his/her family. Or is farming become such a large corporate business, that big pulbic companies are letting their fertilizer run off into the Mississippi.
Off to Jury Duty today…hoping that I do no get picked this time. Last time I went in 1996, I was selected for a Murder Trail in Chicago.
Reuters said it could not agree that the death of Dana, a prize-winning Palestinian cameraman, was justified and called for the urgent implementation of recommendations in the report to improve the safety of journalists in war zones.
What does the journalist expect. It’s war dude. People are shooting big guns at each other with the intent to destroy one another. Yes, it is tragic…but what do you expect – it’s war. Covering that shit is at your own risk in my opinion. Don’t expect young men that are killing or be killed to recognize you as a 3rd party every time.
The Dalai Lama writes, “If we really think about it, our very survival, even today, depends upon the acts of kindness of so many people. Right from the moment of our birth, we are under the care and kindness of our parents ; later in life, when facing the sufferings of disease and old age, we are again dependent on the kindness of others. If at the beginning and end of our lives we depend upon others’ kindness, then why in the middle should we not act kindly toward others?”
(saw this on Rolf’s site)