Where did you get this? I love the “Heartless Bitches” idea. Sheila and I wanted to create “the Bitch Show” on the radio-mornings. It’s nice that someone FINALLY stated the obvious. I am so freakin’ sick to death of hearing that women prefer assholes over nice guys. I think that’s because the assholes need some lovin’ too so they initiate this belief. Abusive people always attract the victim. It’s a bunch of bullshit that we like to be hooked up with jerks over nice guys. This article is totally accurate. Guys are either suffocating in a desperate way or suffocating in a controlling/asshole way. Then, there are the specimens in between that we are truly on the search for. The “bad boys” look strong/rough/durable like they can defend us and get through anything when we need it. That’s attractive. But, the genuinely nice, thoughtful guy who still has his tail sticking out is the one! Even if he doesn’t come in the strong package necessarily.

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Very in-depth analysis. I must admit I never had that kind of insight into the whole thing.

One point I’d like to add is ‘power is an aphrodisiac’. You can be a rude, lazy, unintelligent person, but show power in various situations, and people will be drawn to you. Look at Hitler, Donald Trump, Yankees owner, etc , etc.

I think nice guys are often too worried about upsetting people and come off as weak.

I also think ‘romance’ was invented by nice guys, as was way to draw out the whole mating ritual, and actually give them a chance to spill their guts, and get a bite of the cherry.

Posted from Indonesia

How could anyone resist this post? A woman who likes herself will like a nice guy. We really do like to be treated with kindness and affection. No surprise, but there’s no question about it, sooner or later, we’re going to want to see that you know when and where to draw the line between generosity and indulgence, kindness and groveling. We’ll keep pushing you until you come out swinging (metaphorically speaking). Conflict is powerful- and can be healthy for couples. Maybe it’s partly biological. Don’t know.

Posted from United States