Sean, I’d love to support your theory, but you’d have to be right for me to support that.

Unfortunately (and this comes from somebody with absolutely no LA game, but with Burning Man game, but without, oh, forget it, let’s get back to the point). Where? Oh yes, you actually have to make a grid with caring/not caring on one axis, and game/no game on the other axis.

Thus, we have 4 categories: Game + caring, No Game + caring, No game + No caring, & Game + No caring.

Them’s are facts, right there. But, what do they *mean*, you ask? Fuck if I know. I’m just bored.

No, wait, I’ve got an idea. Here goes:

Game + no caring = chicks throw themselves at you.

No game + no caring = they throw themselves at you, but you don’t notice.

No game + caring = Best case scenario: You meet a hot girl that’s sick of being the hot girl and just wants to be the kinda girl you can take home to mom. Worst case scenario: “Can’t we just be friends?”

Game + caring = you’re going to meet someone awesome, but she’ll realize rather quickly after the first few dates that you’re a nice, caring guy. Honestly? I think she bails. But I’m bitter (i’ll look for a ‘The Crush’ link later). But maybe, just maybe, you’ll be golden.

What category were you again? Right now, I think I’m in the no-woman land of ‘game (with apathy that leads to a ‘no-game’ categorization), no caring stage.

And I’m in the biggest drought I’ve been in in like, 3 years.

Can’t wait to hear Leo’s opinion.

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Hmmm….It’s all interesting and a topic I’d rather discuss over tall stiff drinks. Not even coffee on Sunday morning. This is a nighttime with booze discussion.

I’m not sure who to agree with here. Probably both of you.

First of all, I don’t like game and I do like caring.

Second, I’m not your typical woman, so I can’t even generalize. I can only speak from my own love failures.

But wait, a more positive attiude would be that I haven’t failed the test yet and the professor is letting me retake the final because he thinks I’m a contender.

Ok, so obviously this is going to be a run on discussion with me. There’s no way I can get my thoughts out in one post, and why should I? This is my favorite topic!

In the spirit of High Fidelity, here are my:

Top Five acts of Romantic Male Kindness + whether or not he scored

1. Boyfriend wrote me cards telling me he was thinking of me and loved me…scored every night I got one as far as I can remember, HIGHLY RECOMMENDED

2. Boyfriend told me I was beautiful when we made love

Obviously was already scoring. But the key here was to use this sparingly, as he did the cards. EXTREMELY RECOMMENDED

3. Boyfriend bought me plants to decorate new place, brought me garden picked flowers, and sometimes picked flowers just while walking. Scores that night and for the next night, too. HIGHLY RECOMMENDED FOR REGULAR SPOILING

4. Non Boyfriend thoroughly prepared to the point of excess for visit. Extreme amount of thoughtfulness gained mega points and built scoring reserve. RECOMMENDED WITH CAUTION, ACTION CAN INTIMIDATE

5. Non Boyfriend created absolute ingredients for perfect date. Twice in a row. Everything that would normally be on a list. Dinner. Gambling. Old School bar. Elements of Suprise. Elements of Choice. Paid for everything. Sports. Etc. Didn’t score. Uberenthusiasm and excitement about my state of measuring up to his list was a turn off.

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1. Caring + game

2. Caring + game

3. gay

4. No game + too much caring

5. No game + too much caring (i do like your description of the perfect date - and i like the Elements of Choice. Elements of Surprise thing. There should be an article about this.)

Have I told you The Crush story?

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After The Crush story, could we hear more about the gay story?

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As far as I know #3 is not gay.

As for doing more articles, I’m a bit backed up.

Oh yeah, and I wouldn’t exactly say #1 and #2 had game. They are the same guy. I’ll have to think about whether or not I consider him to have had game.

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